Take Control of Your Life
My daughter was telling me that other day that it seemed an eternity going from 6 to 7 years old. For me on the other hand, the older I get the faster time flies by. As things move faster and faster in life, finding a balance between work, health, finances and career becomes harder and harder. It is easy to start feeling powerless and out of control.
It is easy to blame feeling out of control on the events and circumstances of life; the boss is too demanding and does not care, the kids’ activities after school are just too much, or stress from your relationship causes you to overeat and drink.
There are always two ways to take back control of your life.
The first is to shift your procedures and take control by changing the events and circumstances of life. A person can change jobs to get a new boss, sign the kids up for one less extracurricular activity next season, or join Weight Watchers and start counting points. These procedural changes we all know how to do, but still have a hard time implementing. Most people know what to do, they just don’t do it.
Your second option? Change your perception. “Changing perception” involves changing the way a person thinks. All learning, change, and behavioral shifts happen at the unconscious level.
Asking yourself better questions and adopting a different identity will help change your own perceptions of who you are and what you believe. The above examples of being stressed presuppose an identity that a person who can’t handle the stressors of life. If they wanted to, one could choose to adopt different beliefs, such as, “The more energy I put out, the stronger I become”, “The busier I am, the more organized and the more efficient I become”, “I thrive on life’s challenges: the faster life goes, the more momentum I have”, or “It is good to have a full life of opportunity.”
Implementing new procedures can change your life, and many times, that is precisely what is needed. But sometimes, the solution lies in changing your perceptions of your identity and adopting a different internal beliefs system. Those new beliefs are what will allow you to take control of your life!
What is a more empowering identity and belief that you can adopt? Are there some areas of your life where you need to change your procedures? Are there some areas of your life where you need to shift your perceptions?
I look forward to hearing your response and comments!
To your continued success,
